AVOID THE PITFALLS OF DOCTOR FOSTER THIS FESTIVE PERIOD 6 TOP TIPS FOR SEPARATED PARENTS
The recent hit TV series ‘Doctor Foster’ had the nation gripped with suspense as the protagonist took viewers on a dark journey of discovery… and divorce. Spoiler alert!
For those that are yet to watch the programme, Dr Gemma Foster had it all; a GP practice, a beautiful house in a lovely neighbourhood, a happy marriage, and a 12 year old son. Suddenly Gemma’s perfect world is turned upside down when she suspects her husband is having an affair.
Whether or not you have been an avid watcher of the series, ‘Doctor Foster’ is a serious reminder of some important issues which separated parents can learn from. For example, no matter what the circumstances, using children as a weapon can have lifelong emotional and/or psychological effects. The best thing you can do for all concerned is to shield them from any conflict.
For separated parents, the festive period can be especially difficult, as many find themselves struggling to adjust. Don’t make the same mistakes as ‘Doctor Foster’! Instead, follow these top tips from Anna Rhodes, a Family Lawyer at Blacks Solicitors, and plan for a Christmas that feels just as special as always for everyone involved.
1. Plan early and communicate
The first step for a happy and relaxed Christmas is to start talking early and get some firm plans in place for who will be where, when, and with whom.
2. Focus on what is best for the children (not the parents)
Talk about what you both think would be best for the children, focussing on the children’s needs and how to make Christmas most enjoyable for them. Remember each child is different.
3. Be prepared to compromise
If your ex is determined
to have the children on Christmas day, maybe you could have them next year. Remember – there will be many more Christmases to come.
4. Don’t make it a competition
Present buying might feel like the perfect opportunity to score some points. Don’t! Speak to your ex and decide who is buying what and, most importantly, stick to this agreement.
5. Say no to pressure
Never ask your children to decide where they want to be on a specific day. It’s unfair to ask them to make such a huge decision.
6. Take advice from the experts
If you find yourself facing a confrontational ex and struggling to agree, or keep your cool when making plans, talk to people who are experienced in dealing with family issues.
For those seeking legal advice, or for information on how to have a stress free Christmas, please contact Anna Rhodes via email ARhodes@ LawBlacks.com or reach her on 0113 227 9251. Alternatively visit www.LawBlacks.com